Happy Monday! We are so excited to start this week off with another amazing Body of a Mother Project and today we are talking with our good friend Destiney Green so exudes beauty and confidence all while raising her little daughter H! We love the message of being a strong woman that Destiney teaches her daughter on a daily basis and really is what this whole project is about! It’s about us as mothers embracing our bodies and feeling confident in our own skin. The power of our bodies is unbeatable and we should all be proud of the amazing things we’ve accomplished! If you’ve missed any of our previous features from this series you can check out their inspiring words here: Stacie Lucas, Sadie Sabin, Ashley Fultz, Jenna Rammell, and Johnna Holmgren.
– Tell us a little about you and your family.
I’m 29, and I like to say I’m majoring in motherhood! I’m a mama to a three-year-old firecracker I refer to as H. She’s really my main focus and motivation behind everything I do. I want to ensure I’m creating a world for her that consists of exposure to differences, strength and determination, and most importantly, love. That’s what our family is about. I co-parent H with her dad, and while we aren’t romantically involved anymore, we are committed to being a family for her. I’m also very close to my grandparents, who I value so much.
– What was it like for you during your pregnancies and the feelings you had experiencing the changes going on with your body?
In my personal experience, pregnancy was a beautiful transition. I am not above having moments of insecurity, but overall, I really was able to embrace the changes because there were so many positives. Pregnancy also really regulated some health issues I was having, so aside from external physical changes, my body went through some very positive internal changes. That really helped me keep things in perspective.
– What part of your body image changes have you had to get use to and embrace since having children?
I’ve been very lucky to embrace the changes in my body and work very hard to improve areas I wasn’t happy with. I don’t believe in staying in a place you are unhappy in; so if something about my post-baby body wasn’t appealing to me, I’ve worked on changing it. Overall though, the biggest body image change I have is the appreciation for how much my body can do, and how strong my body truly is.
– Some women embrace their “mom body” and actually find themselves more confident and stronger vs. when they were younger, do you find this to be true to you?
Absolutely. Motherhood is a very powerful thing. I think that a “mom body” is different for everyone. Regardless if a mom is covered in stretch marks, or comes out looking like a Victoria’s Secret model, they all have mom bodies. A mom body is power; it’s strength. It’s absolutely a reason to be more confident.
– After having a baby how do you like to get your “groove” back and into the swing of things?
Bringing life into this world is so beautiful and overwhelming. I think moms feel this pressure to be 100% about your child, 100% of the time. We hear over and over again that once you have a child, it’s no longer about you, it’s about the child. To a certain extent this is correct, but I’m very passionate about empowering other mamas to retain their sense of self after having children. Children thrive when they live in a happy home. To get my groove back, I do things that I love and that I find peace from. It centers me and allows me to be a better mother to H.
– What struggles have you had with your mom body? What have you done to over come these struggles?
Here’s the thing when talking about a “mom” body. Women already have insecurities and expectations of who they should be and how they should attain that, thrown at them from every outlet of media. I dealt with my personal body changes in phases. I embraced being able to breastfeed for two and half years. I have gone to the gym to be as psychically fit as possible. And I’ve considered having elective surgery to fix what I don’t like. I want women to know it’s not taboo to do these things, and it’s also okay to not want to. You are your own strength and your own compass. One of the best ways I’ve found to deal with any internal struggles is through the support of other women. We are each others own best resource.
– What advice would you give to other mothers who struggle with embracing their mom bodies?
Have no shame, girlfriends! If you are comfortable in your mom body just as it is, then rock that! If you don’t like what you see, make changes. Don’t be ashamed to go after what it is you envision for yourself. Whatever you do, love yourself and remember the strength that you have. You created life! You are a goddess!