Happy Monday! We are jumping right into things with another Body of a Mother Project today featuring the beautiful Stacie Lucas, owner of the popular children’s clothing brand, Duchess and Lion. Stacie is a mother to two incredible kids, Addie (recently turned 5) and Sonny (age 2.5). Her husband is a scientist that operates on a linear platform and her creative mind makes for a pretty fabulous + rare dual that swats between the two worlds.
We just love how down to earth Stacie is and we are so honored to have been able to chat with her about motherhood + her thoughts on changes that her body has gone through since having little peanuts.
If you are new to this series you can read more about the message behind it here and also check out the other mom’s stories we’ve shared so far: Sadie Sabin, Ashley Fultz, Jenna Rammell, and Johnna Holmgren.
– What was it like for you during your pregnancies and the feelings you had experiencing the changes going on with your body?
Pregnancy was rough on me. Both pregnancies were high risk and required some level of bed rest or lightened activity. With my daughter, I only gained 25 pounds, mostly due to the stress of the pregnancy. With my son, I gained 65 pounds. HELLO SWEETS! Cravings are a real deal ladies. I don’t think it was the number on the scale that bothered me as much as the way my body shifted and changed. It felt foreign and uncomfortable.
– What part of your body image changes have you had to get use to and embrace since having children?
The only two advise I give my expecting friends are this: 1.) Spend your life savings on whatever kind of help you need after your babies. Whether mental help or physical. It is my only regret after having kids. and 2.) don’t worry about how your body looks for the months after your pregnancy. Seriously, I think you can do things, when you gain energy back and find your new rhythm to help start to feel normal again, but “post baby bodies” are 100% genetic in my humble opinion. After Addie I weighed 10 pound less than pre-pregnancy in 4 weeks. How did I do it? I ate like a football player. In other words, I did nothing. My body did was my body wanted. I also happen to have an incredible friend who is like miss fitness universe that looked 4 months pregnant still at 4 months post postpartum. Our bodies all each unique. They do what is right for them. So spend your time staring into the eyes of that perfect little gift that is yours! The rest will fall into place in due time. And on that note, my due time with Drew (my second) was 2 years after he was born. That is when my energy and rhythm returned.
– Some woman embrace their “mom body” and actually find themselves more confident and stronger vs. when they were younger, do you find this to be true to you?
It is hard to say whether I embrace my mom body. Stretch marks don’t bother me much, and my weight is less know than before I had kids (I used to be….wait for it…….an athlete. Ironically running a mile now is somewhat of a champion move for me). I find more purpose to my body now. It was a vessel that carried life. It created 2 out of the 3 most precious things in my life. So I love it. It is strong and healthy now, despite its softer appearance. It has never failed me when I have lifted a 30 pound child onto a hip to comfort. As a matter of fact, I often joke that God new Sonny Boy would be mine when he gave me these hips. He knew I would need a resting place for my boy who often needs extra love and nurture, in the form of never being put down.
– After having a baby how do you like to get your “groove” back and into the swing of things?
Man, how do you get your groove back? This is a bit loaded. With Addie I was on cloud 9 after birth. I distinctively remember walking under a freeway overpass to downtown when she was 2-3 weeks old, she was in a carrier, snuggled in on my chest thinking: I have never been happier in life. My groove was there. I walked everywhere with her. I exercised. I loved every minute of EVERYTHING. So when Drew came and I was offering him out to nurses in the hospital to hold, begging to let him go to the nursery, crying endlessly, I should have known I was entering into the throws of postpartum depression. For 18 months I lived in a complete fog. Getting out of bed took an army. So the idea of getting my groove back didn’t even exist. To be honest, it just entered the picture 3 months ago. I climbed out of the fog, spent time stabilizing and investing back into a family my husband carried on his back alone for 18 months, and now, I have the time to get my groove. For me, with two kids, it is getting a quick one hour body conditioning class in 3-4 times a week and a long (solo!) walk in another two days.
– What advice would you give to other mothers who struggle with embracing their mom bodies?
Mamas, love yourself. I have no advise other than that. This job is self-less. You give of yourself everyday, so at the very least, acknowledge that. Acknowledge how much you do everyday. You sustain life (lives!). That is your legacy. Not a number on a scale!